So, are guys capable of changing? And the fact is that they cannot. The fact is that when a woman asks them to make too many "adjustments" or "modifications," males often feel emasculated and inadequate. They were not built for change; they want to be fixed instead.
Males are designed to be strong and dominant. If you try to turn them into something else by forcing them to behave like females, then they have no choice but to withdraw from you. This is why most abusive relationships involve a male being told he must become feminine or lose her love. It's also why most marriages between people with different temperaments fail: both parties need to adjust to fit each other, which is impossible.
The only thing that can change a guy is another guy. But even then, it's not really changing him, it's just replacing him with someone new who will then have to replace him with another person, and so on. This process never ends because there's always going to be another guy around to replace the previous one. There's no end goal beyond survival itself.
He can learn new things, sure, but not through effort on his part. He was born with a set of skills and abilities, some more useful than others. Some people are naturally good at math while others are not. Some can play the guitar while others can't.
Men change as a result of their life experiences. But if there is a quick shift, something extremely good or very horrible must have occurred to them. Men can also alter as a result of several partnerships. That is why males alter once they are in a relationship. If they discover a new person who interests them, they will probably leave the previous partnership behind.
The reason men change after getting into a relationship is because their perspective on life changes. The way they view themselves and others around them alters. This means that they might not be comfortable with all of their previous partners, so they remove some parts of them from their mind and focus on the new one.
Men need to feel important - especially when they're young. If they don't get enough attention from their parents, they'll look elsewhere for it. Some children turn to alcohol or drugs to make themselves feel better. Others end up making themselves feel better by cheating on their partners. Still other men cheat because they're actually looking for a wife instead of a girlfriend.
Men need to feel successful - especially when they're young. If they don't get enough attention from their teachers or employers, they'll look elsewhere for it. Still other men cheat because they're actually looking for a job instead of a girlfriend.
The one seeking change is usually the one with less power in the relationship, whereas his or her spouse is motivated to merely maintain the status quo. Because males have traditionally had more authority in partnerships than women in our culture, women are frequently the ones pushing for change. Of course, this relationship is shifting. Women now have more power than ever before in history. With this increased freedom comes new challenges and responsibilities, especially when it comes to love and marriage.
Marriage is a contract between two people agreeing to share their lives together. This contract can be expressed in many different ways, but it always includes giving your partner space while still feeling like you're not going anywhere. It also means that when something bad happens, you should try to talk about it instead of keeping it inside. Finally, marriage is all about compromise, so if you want your husband or wife to change, you've got to be willing to make some concessions.
Wanting change does not mean that your spouse doesn't love you anymore. He or she may even feel like changing certain things about themselves for your own good. For example, if your husband or wife feels like they're not being loved properly, they might decide to change something about themselves so you'll love them again.
As long as there is love and respect between you, anything else is unnecessary change.
That fundamental principle is simple to grasp. The difficult thing is really having to conquer it since most guys are resistant to altering their ideas. Men are complicated animals in that we aren't always amenable to altering our ideas after we've made up our minds. I can use several instances from my own life to adequately explain this idea. In order for me to understand it better, let's take an example from today's news.
An article on NBCNews.com reports that many men are changing their views on marriage after meeting someone they like. They report on some studies which show that almost half of all marriages in America today started with one partner being opposed to marriage and the other wanting it. These marriages last only about 6 years on average compared to 20 years ago when most couples who married went on to have children and built lives together.
This isn't just a problem among young people in their 20s. It has become a problem among older people too. A study conducted by the University of Chicago showed that 40% of people over 50 have changed their view on marriage - usually because they have met someone and want to be married.
So what's going on here? Why are so many men changing their views on marriage? One reason is technology. Today's men have grown up with computers and cell phones so they tend to rely more on communication via email or text message instead of face-to-face conversations.
Sure, guys may make amends or even compromise from time to time, especially if they know the girl in their life is sad or wounded, but change is difficult for any creature, especially a man. At least not in terms of the connection. The feeling between two people who have spent time together will always be there, like love and hate, attraction and repulsion. It's just a matter of intensity.
The physical part might change over time (a guy will usually grow a beard and gain weight), but the personality of a guy I've known for years remains largely the same. Even if we were to break up then meet again, we'd still have a good idea what each other was like because we shared our entire lives with each other. Most girls have only ever had one boyfriend or more likely a few relationships over time rather than close friendships that last forever. This is because girls are social animals who need to rely on others for safety so it makes sense that they would want to limit how much pain this process can cause.
There are times when girls wonder whether or not their boyfriends are still the same person. If he gets a new job or starts going to classes regularly, for example, she might think something has changed about him. But generally speaking, boys don't change unless you ask them to. A boy will always be ready to put out for his partner and show her love because that's what boys do.